Here’s A Quickie, Babies
I am in a writing fervor right now, which is good for me because it’s the project I am hoping to possibly, hopefully, actually get published this time.
However, I know you all get lonesome when I don’t pop in from time to time, that you’re pining away for my eloquent company…all right, maybe I overstate my presence in your lives just a tiny bit. Still, I do love when I find an adoption-related post from someone I haven’t read before and it’s someone who GETS IT, and I know many of you guys do, too.
Check out Anymommy’s sharp response to yet another adoption-is-always-love-and-love-is-all-we-need article in the mainstream media. Whether the publication she’s addressing chooses to publish it or not, I think it deserves a read.
Thanks, Anymommy. Shout out to Jennifer at Thursday Drive for hooking me up with you through CommentLuv.
Thank you – I feel exactly the same about finding others who GET IT. I adore Thursday Drive and I’m thrilled that Jennifer has connected us. I’m looking forward to reading more about your stoy – but nap time and my computer time are coming to a sad end right now.
Hey Coco – thanks for pointing this out. Just left anymommy a comment of praise for that extremely well-written letter.
And I, for one, *do* miss you when you’re not blogging here more often. So it isn’t *all* in your head……….
xoxo
I’m the open adoption mom featured in the article.
Nothing hugely bad in the article itself, though I was a bit disappointed that ethics weren’t discussed at all
I made such a huge point of talking about that a lot 
But I”m not really surprised either
I wish it had occurred to me to suggest your two blogs to each other, but I’m glad you’ve connected now.
I feel very lucky to have found your blog, and I feel the same about AnyMommy. You both write so beautifully, and have a way of breaking my heart and putting it back together in the space of a post.
Thanks for the link!
Erin – It’s not a criticism of you. I’m sure you know that, but I wanted to say it anyway. I’m sadly unsurprised that your discussions of ethics in adoption were glossed over or ignored entirely in the article (which I have not had the chance to read though), because that is SOP when it comes to mainstream media and adoption.
They want a happy story, happy families, and happy endings. That’s what still sells. It makes people feel “all icky” to have to imagine a grieving first parent, an adoptee who does not feel “blessed” to have been adopted, a child so damaged that they act out with aggression and rage against parents, other children, pets. I’m certain adoption organizations put out a lot of pressure and propaganda to large publications to keep stories “focused on the positive”.
Yet those less-than-rosy issues are the things we need to talk about, which is why I think Anymommy’s letter is so important.
She says she had an adoption “disruption” doesn’t that mean she adopted a child and then sent him away again? That never makes me feel comfortable.
I was also disappointed that the ethics issue wasn’t discussed more. I spent a LOT of time talking to the writer about that
But I’m not surprised either. She told me the article was going to be pretty rosy, but said she would try and work some of what I was passionate about into it. The article was rosy, but there was one snippet where I said we wanted to be sure that nobody was pressuring mom to place. God willing that one little snippet will cause one more person to think about it and one less unethical placement will happen. God willing…..